After all, without touch there would be no feeling; without sight, we wouldn’t see beauty; without sound, there would be no music; without taste, food would hold no delight; without scent our lovemaking would not hold the enchantment we long for.
Humans need to be touched. Physical contact is important for both our mental and physical well-being. I recently read that we need 14 hugs a day to be healthy. It’s not unusual for individuals to go for long periods of time without even getting a hug from another person. When in a relationship we may take kisses and hugs for granted, but when single, we may lament the loss of touch and sensuality in our lives. So, how does a single person find the nurturing and sensual feelings of touch without going the route of one night stands and quick flings? For many people, the idea of sensuality is associated with sexuality. We think of sensual touch, sensual kisses, and sensual moments between the sheets.
At its core, however, being sensual is not about sex at all. Being sensual is about living in your senses as opposed to your mind. It means connecting to your physical body as it exists, perceives and feels in this very moment. The Way of the Peaceful Warrior speaks to this…being present…in the moment. It is a philosophy embraced by many religions.
Sensuality is taking pleasure in the world around us. It is being Present and aware of our surroundings.
You can become more sensual at any moment by becoming aware of your five senses. What are you hearing? What are touching? What are you tasting? What are you seeing? What are you smelling? Find the sensual energy in everything: your foot rolling through a step, your fingers tapping on the keyboard, your lips and tongue pronouncing words, your eyes moving from one object to another. No action is too small to ignite your senses. Move your body freely and often. Walk. Dance. Bike. Swim. Swing your arms. Stretch.
Don’t be in a hurry to move onto the next thing. Don’t rush a conversation to a close, a career to its next level or a kiss to sex.
A sensual person experiences each moment totally—and knows that a simple, complete, fully present, deep inhale can evoke as much ecstasy as anything.
Sensuality is taking pleasure in the world around us.
Who doesn’t enjoy slipping into bed with the scent and the feel of freshly laundered sheets, hung outside to dry, against our skin? Especially after a warm shower or bath in which we slathered our bodies with softly scented luxurious oils and creams? I have a few favorites, don’t you?
I love getting prepared for my love to come over. Shaving all the parts he likes smooth and leaving those he likes to be simply manicured. Smoothing oils & lotions with heady aromas on my warm skin; my hair washed & softly cascading over my shoulders.
Clean soft bedding, candles everywhere so there is no harsh light to jar our senses. Softly playing seductive music in the background from a playlist so carefully constructed. Our favorite tidbits of fruits & sweets to nibble on….our favorite beverages…bliss… sensual bliss.