There will be instances in life that require you to win over people who oppose you and gain their sincere support. It is possible to gain compliance through bribes, fear and the use of force. But this is not sincere support. In any case, you will never be able to win hearts and minds in this manner. Instead, this lack of true support may cause problems for you in the future. For example, people might withdraw their support for you at key points due to a lack of loyalty.
What should you do in this case? You must move people with your sincerity. Specifically, you must show them your true heart.
What is the True Heart of Sincerity?
Dictionary.com states that sincerity means freedom from deceit, hypocrisy or duplicity; honesty in intention or in communicating; earnestness.
But the true heart of sincerity is far more complex. According to “the Korean Mind,” the meaning includes beliefs, spirituality, attitude and character. To show one’s true heart, a person must be trusted to act in accord with the highest social and ethical standards. He or she must be unselfish, honest, loyal and diligent. If need be, this person must be willing to make great sacrifices and go beyond the call of duty. This person must show that they deserve the chance they seek.
The Need to Show Your True Heart
There are many reasons why people may oppose you and your goals in the first place. It could be due to their comfort zones, their way of thinking, the upheavals due to change and so on.
They might also question your sincerity, ability and credibility. Do you have what it takes? Will you go the distance to fulfil your goals? Can they trust you if they lend your their support? Why should they support you? How will they benefit from supporting you? Is supporting you the right and best choice given the situation?
How else will you overcome such opposition unless you show your true heart?
Suffice to say, the bigger the change involved, the greater the need to show your true heart to move opposition. After all, if it were not some radical goal or idea in the first place, no one would oppose you. But because your request may bring great change, there will be great resistance that you need to overcome. And if you need the support, you will have to put in the effort. Here, you have to be wary of the factors that might prevent you from showing your true heart.
Factors That Hinder Your True Heart
1. Too Much Pride
You might feel that there is no need to demean yourself or to waste time trying to win people to your point of view. Why should you make yourself look foolish and ridiculous in the eyes of others? If they refuse to support you, it is their loss. Why must you endure repeated rejections? You do not need them and you can easily find support elsewhere.
Sometimes, it is not possible to find alternative sources of support. If this is the case, then pride may prevent you from showing your true heart. Here, you have to ask yourself what is more important, your pride or your goal. What will you achieve if you hold on to your pride? What will you achieve if you choose your goal instead?
2. Lack of Perseverance
It takes time to overcome great resistance due to the inertia involved. Thus, to move people with your true heart, you will need great perseverance. But here, the effort involved might be too much for some. In our time, where we are used to getting everything we want instantly, we might lack the needed patience. When we meet the first sign of obstacles, we might choose to give up instead of persevering. We might feel that we do not have the time to waste trying to move someone with our true heart.
If you have alternatives, then this is not a problem. But if you have no other choice, then perseverance is critical in moving people with your true heart. Here, what you choose to do and say and how you do and say it matters.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
The sincerity shown by one’s true heart is not begging or empty words. Begging has no sense of dignity or sincerity. Both begging and empty words do not convince people to lend you their full support. Such superficial forms of persuasion are unlikely to win hearts and minds. As such, people might withdraw their support at any time.
On the other hand, showing your true heart requires you to be dignified and humble. You must convince people with actions that back up your words. You must show your sincerity and ability to carry out what you say. You must also show how people will benefit if they support you, especially if great change is involved.
Here it is better to go the distance and do more than you promised. When your true heart moves people, they will support you out of respect and admiration. Your cause becomes their cause. Your goal becomes their goal. For those who are more practical-minded, they now see the benefits of helping you. Yet even this goes beyond simple self-interest. Your true heart has moved them and they are now willing to go the distance for you.
Moving people with your true heart motivates them to keep their word and lend you their full support. How then do you go about showing your true heart?
Reblogged from: http://hanofharmony.com/how-to-move-mountains-with-your-true-heart/