Before you begin any self-pleasuring session make sure that you have at least half an hour to yourself and that you are comfortable, preferably fully naked! It is recommended that you practice on yourself for a while before attempting to use it during intercourse.
As already mentioned, orgasm and ejaculation are two completely separate bodily functions and you need to learn to separate them. Relating to a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 equates to non-arousal and 10 to ejaculation, you need to find a number which relates to you that is just below the point of no return. For most men this will be between 7 and 8.
Now take some deep long relaxation breaths. This will help to relax you as well as help you connect to your body. Inhale in and out through your nostrils. Ensure you take deep breaths, each time feeling the breath in your abdomen (allow your belly to push out as you inhale and fall as you exhale). Allow your breathing to slow down naturally. Note, how much more relaxed you are feeling. Try to maintain this type of breathing throughout your entire self-pleasuring experience. However, if you do forget to breathe in this way just do it when you catch yourself forgetting!
Begin to arouse yourself…..try and use a variety of touch and massage strokes not only on your lingam but also on other parts of your body, the key here is to experiment and learn what and where feels good to you. It’s also nice to use lubricant as this helps to enhance sensation and if it feels good make the sounds that give one feedback as to how good it feels.
Once you’ve massaged yourself to your magic number, stop massaging, or doing what it was that got you to this level, and immediately begin the breathing that you were doing when you first started (if you forgot that is), use the inhale to move the sensations away from your groin and up into your chest and into the rest of your body, make sure you exhale fully at each breath. In addition, while still doing this breathing, you can also pull down on your testicles or do “kegel exercises” to keep you from ejaculating.
Once the feeling has subsided, you can continue what you were doing….try to not allow your energy level to drop too much though before continuing.
Keep repeating this for as long as you wish or as long as time as allows. You will notice that each time you raise your sexual energy you will achieve increasingly greater levels of pleasure each time until you reach a point at which you absolutely have to ejaculate……at this point, go for it. As you ejaculate make sound as this will allow you to continue to ejaculate for as long as you are making sound. However, you do have a choice, and if you decide that you want to retain you ejaculate, then you might want to try this technique.
When, you’ve peaked for the last time, instead of doing the deep breathing as before, this time take in a deep breath. At the same time tighten your muscles in your perineum and anus, touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth and look upward to your forehead. Hold all these activities for as long as you can before releasing it. When you do release it, however, just let the breath totally go. If your body starts spasming, don’t be afraid, just enjoy these sensations as all this is your built-up sexual energy releasing into your body….you are experiencing what Tantrics call Full Body Orgasm.
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