It Just Feels So Good!

tantric massageHumans. We require touch else we die. Babies in hospitals have proven this to be so. I’ve read many times over the past year that people should receive at least 14 hugs a day to truly thrive. I can believe this. As a woman who cringed at the thought of being touched for a long time, I was doing anything but thriving.

I have a lover who likes to spoon just as much as I do. He was deprived of touch, loving touch, as a child. As an adult he is voracious in his appetite for touch. I love it.

I don’t think anything feels nearly as delicious as massaging my lover or being massaged by him. Sex doesn’t have to be the end result with us and often, it isn’t.

I’ve attached a video of two women in erotic touch. I don’t think the fact that they are nude is the erotic part of it. It is the way the ENERGY is being moved. As I watched the movie I felt my own energy shifting. Oh what pleasure! It almost moves me to tears.

I hope you enjoy watching as much as I have.

I can hardly wait to see my lover again. He is going to be pleasantly surprised 😛

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What Sexy-Consciously Awake Women Want SEXUALLY From MEN

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I could not have said this better myself! “Women who don’t love sex or talk about it like it is chore (they’d rather vacuum or tidy up the house than connect sexually) are having THE WRONG KIND OF SEX!”

And now, back to my regularly scheduled program

I meltIf you have followed my blog for any length of time, you know I often write about sex. The big taboo…SEX. None of us would exist without it. We are driven for the experience of it after food, water & shelter. And for some, even before those basic needs.  In that light, I want to share with you a post from one of the facebook groups I am in. Usually I am ALL about the spiritual aspect of sex and the energy, the Kundalini energy, that defines it. This particular post is about the G-Spot. I know I’ve posted about this particular spot in the past and some may find this information redundant, however, it is a topic that keeps coming up over & over & over. I hope you enjoy this article as much as I have.

Ever the pleasure seeker ~ SensualBlissVoyager aka lantanagurl 🙂

The Mystery of The G-Spot

At almost every talk we give, regardless of the topic, someone asks about the G-Spot.
At almost every workshop, regardless of the topic, someone asks about the G-Spot.

The question is asked by both men and women.
Do I have one, does she have one?
I’ve been rooting around inside myself, her, for hours and haven’t found anything.
I’ve read the articles on the web, in the magazines, in the books, still can’t find anything.
I’m sure only some women have it, because I definitely DON’T!

You do.
You all do.
There are just a few things they don’t tell you.

Let’s look first, or feel first, couldn’t resist, at what the G-Spot is.
In the world of Tantra this is called the Goddess Spot.
Because the pleasure possibilities take you to place of Elevated, Heightened Pleasure, a place beyond what we think pleasure is, a place where the Goddess experiences herself.

The G-Spot is a gland.
It has about 40 ducts that create fluids linked to your fertility, your hormone balance and fluid that you can ejaculate.
It’s being seen on ultrasound, it’s being found in dissection.
And beyond that, it’s palpable for you to feel, it’s unmistakable!
Which makes you think, where has it been, how could it have been missed?

If all this is the case, which it is, why do so many women, and their partner’s, struggle to find this?

Because, and this is what so few of the articles tell you, it’s linked to your past, to your beliefs about sex, to the inhibitions you have, to the negative, painful, unfulfilled sexual and emotional experiences you’ve had.
All of those things, all the times in life you’ve been made to feel less than, not good enough, every time you’ve given your self, your power away in a way that has not been for you.
That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.

Every time you’ve been touched in a way that has not been an expression of love.
That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.
Every time you’ve felt guilty about pleasure.
That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.
Every time you’ve felt shameful, dirty or embarrassed about your body, about your sexuality, about your desire.
That sits in the tissues of your G-Spot.

You can feel for this for hours, as many people do.
You might feel something physical in terms of structure inside your yoni.
And for so many, it’s numb, tender or even painful.
So despite feeling the gland, if there’s no pleasure, what’s the point?
And if there’s no pleasure, then I don’t have a G-Spot.

Learning to physically find this is only the first step.
Releasing what’s there is what allows the pleasure.

And what pleasure!!!orgasm
G-Spot Orgasms, Deep Uterine Orgasms, Blended Orgasms, Waves of Bliss, Ejaculation, Sexual Meditative States…

So why is this important, beyond the pleasure?
Because most women can have, in some way, fingers, tongues, vibrators, clitoral orgasms. Which on any given day are nice, ok, wonderful, amazing…

Firstly it is about the pleasure.
An increase in pleasure that’s hard to describe until you’ve experienced it.

Then it’s about power.
Your power as woman.
This is a portal to the State of a Goddess.
For in the release you claim yourself.
You claim your pleasure.
You free yourself from the limitations of the past. From the inhibitions, the guilt, the shame, the embarrassment, the repression, the lack of self expression etc.

Then it’s about spirituality.
For the higher and deeper states of pleasure are doorways to spiritual experiences, higher states of consciousness, meditative states and more.

And it’s also about creativity.
For your sexual energy and your creative energy are one and the same. When the energy flows, you have the power, the resources, to create your life, your relationships, your world, the way you would like it to be.

One of the principles of Conscious Sexuality is using our sexual energy for more than just pleasure. Building and harnessing that energy, directing the power, accessing more of ourselves…

Releasing the blockages, the patterns of the past, what we’ve become, is the first step on the journey of be-coming.
Creating who we’d like to be, the lives we’d like to live.

cosmic sexAnd when we do this with the energy of pleasure, the possibilities are endless…

If you’d like a practical guide to finding your, or her G-Spot, please send us an email, we’ll happily share that with you.
Please remember that often that’s the first step on this wonderful journey into your pleasure.
Much of the work we do with women is about awakening these pathways and opening the door to more of yourself.

We wish you so much pleasure..
Jonti & Anne-Marie

Booking is essential for all workshops, please contact Jonti:
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Saturday 8 December 12pm
Tantric & Sensual Massage Workshop

A practical journey for couples, into the exciting pleasures of Sensual Massage. The workshop includes the principles of Sensual Touch and Massage, Energy Connection Massage, The Heart Touch, Bliss Body Massage, Building the Sexual Fire and Full Body
Sensual Massage.
R2000 per couple

Our friend and fellow tantrika, Rohan Reddy is putting together an event called “Tantragasm” for more info on this exciting happening, click on the link below
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Have A Good Opinion Of God

He [Abraham] staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief; but was strong in faith, giving glory to God.

Romans 4:20, KJV

How was Abraham strong in faith? If you look at the verse, it says that he gave glory to God. The word “glory” means “to have a good opinion of.” So while he was waiting on God for his miracle, Abraham simply had a good opinion of God. He believed that God was a faithful God who would bless him as He had promised to.

My friends, every time you consider God, see Him having a smiling face. See Him as someone who loves you perfectly and wants to be good to you. Have a good opinion of Him.

If you read or hear a negative report, have a good opinion of God and say, “God, because I am Your beloved child in Christ, You’ll never let this happen to me. A thousand may fall at my side, and ten thousand at my right hand, but it will never come near me” (Psalm 91:7). Believe and speak positively about God. Believe and speak positively of yourself. The Bible tells us in so many ways to not dwell on the negative because truly, thoughts DO become things.

The people of the world generally have a bad opinion of God. They see Him as an old, angry judge who’s all about punishing people. Beloved, you are in the world but not of the world (John 17:11, 14, 16). So don’t think and talk like the people of the world. God is your heavenly Father who loves you and wants to bless you. So judge Him good and faithful. He deserves all the glory and is delighted when you have a good opinion about Him and trust in His goodness toward you!

Another aspect of glory we should consider & ponder upon is Shekhinah Glory. This phrase isn’t actually used in the Hebrew or Christian Bible’s; however, the word Shekhinah is. What does it mean exactly?

 I attended a church in Kentucky years ago where this word was often used and although it wasn’t explained to me at the time, I knew it was something special. It came up again today and has been swirling around in the ether’s a little while now. I discovered that the word is the feminine attributes of God, which caused me to smile 🙂 The traditional religions would have us believe that women are really of little consequence & yet none of us would exist if the divine feminine were not involved. I think the imbalance of yin/yang…male/female…is what is seriously wrong with this world, but I digress.  In researching the word Shekhinah, I found that it is decidedly a feminine word in the Hebrew entomology and means the dwelling or settling, and denotes the dwelling or settling of the divine presence of God, especially in the Temple in Jerusalem. The form is conveyed in a hand sign by the gesture of blessing or benediction, with the palms facing downward and the thumbs of the outspread hands touching. The four fingers on each hand are sometimes split into two sets of two fingers each, thus forming the letter Shin (׊ׁ), an emblem for Shaddai (God). Sometimes the hands are arranged to form an overlapping lattice of ‘windows’, referring to a ceremony sometimes called Nesiat Kapayim, the “lifting of the hands”, in which Jewish tradition states the Divine Presence would shine through the fingers of the priests as they blessed the people, who close their eyes as the light could be blinding.

This recurrent theme is best known from the writings and songs of the legendary mystic of the 16th century, Rabbi Isaac Luria. Here is a quotation from the beginning of his famous Shabbat hymn:

“I sing in hymns to enter the gates of the Field of holy apples.

“A new table we prepare for Her, a lovely candelabrum sheds its light upon us.

“Between right and left the Bride approaches, in holy jewels and festive garments…”

A paragraph in the Zohar starts: “One must prepare a comfortable seat with several cushions and embroidered covers, from all that is found in the house, like one who prepares a canopy for a bride. For the Shabbat is a queen and a bride. This is why the masters of the Mishna used to go out on the eve of Shabbat to receive her on the road, and used to say: ‘Come, O bride, come, O bride!’ And one must sing and rejoice at the table in her honor … one must receive the Lady with many lighted candles, many enjoyments, beautiful clothes, and a house embellished with many fine appointments …”

The tradition of the Shekhinah as the Shabbat Bride, the Shabbat Kallah, continues to this day.

The concept of Shekhinah is also associated with Holy Spirit in Jewish tradition, such as in Yiddish song: Vel ich, sh’chine tsu dir kummen “Will I, Shekhinah, to you come”

Didn’t Jesus Himself that He would not leave us comfortless when He had to leave the earth? He said He would send us the Comforter. I don’t know about everyone, but in most families, it is the Mother who is the Comforter. It is at our mother’s breast that we receive solace for our wounds. She hugs and pulls us in close to her. I feel the Holy Spirit, Shekhinah, do the very same to me. And I am comforted.

Even Islam and the mystical arm of that faith, Sufism, gives Her recognition. I am happy to see a reawakening of the Divine Feminine. The Catholic Church has had it right all along; glorify Mother Mary. She is a very special woman and full of Divinity. Blessed be the name of the Goddess.

Golden Flower Meditation

Golden Flower Meditation is a series of interlocking dependencies that can’t be skipped. Before attempting this meditation, you must master the breathing techniques. There are three basic parts to the method; they must be undertaken and mastered in order:

  1. Diaphragmatic Deep Breathing
  2. Control of Heart Rate
  3. The Backward-Flowing Method

1. Sit in Lotus position
Many practitioners ask if they have to sit in the Lotus position. I tell them that if the Lotus position isn’t comfortable, try the half-lotus. And if they don’t like that, I tell them they can try reclining. The important thing is to be comfortable; there’s no point in forcing yourself to be uncomfortable. If sitting in the Lotus position is only going to incite you to give up, then find a comfortable position.

The Lotus position is the optimal position for correct breathing. That’s why it’s prescribed by so many methods. But the real goal of this method, or any other serious method, is not to learn to sit in a Lotus position, or even the half-lotus, it’s to learn to breathe correctly. At the beginning, you want to establish a comfortable posture that allows you to concentrate on breathing.

To find your center, drop a plumb-line. This process is described in The Secret of the Golden Flower thusly. “Looking at the tip of the nose serves only as the beginning of concentration, so that the eyes are brought into the right direction for looking, and then are held to the guide-line: after that one can let it be. That is the way a mason hangs up a plumb-line. As soon as he has hung it up, he guides his work by it without continually bothering himself to look at the plumb-line.”

The idea behind centering is to use the “tip of the nose” as a guideline. When I was learning this, it helped to relax my eyelids, which had the effect of shutting out light and other visual distractions. The more you lower your eyelids without completely closing them, the more you move your attention in toward the center. Eventually, you may even close your eyes. At the beginning, however, you’ll want to find the tip of your nose with your eyes. When you do, take stock of how your eyes are positioned. Half-open, half-closed? Remember the sensation the next time you sit. Take continual inventory and write your perceptions down.

When practicing, don’t think too much about the center, rather try to feel it. Once you feel it, you will realize you are making progress because you won’t be worrying about half-open, half-closed, or fully open. Mastering the centering process is not that difficult, sometimes a practitioner “gets it” in five minutes. But no amount of explanation can replace trial and error.

The problem stems from NOT REALIZING you have a center. Once you realize it — and this awareness may only manifest itself incrementally — you have a starting place each time you sit. Gathering your awareness into the center is real, a sensation, something you feel.  But it doesn’t end there. As you move forward, meditation becomes a whole series of real experiences and sensations that you can observe in the laboratory of your own body. In fact, many people are able to slip into the feeling of centeredness autonomically, almost as if the nervous system had devised a new function. As one practitioner stated: “If I intend to meditate at say 5 p.m, often at 4:45, I ‘hear’ the process beginning and by the time I sit, with little or no effort I am ‘in.'”

“One thing has to be remembered about meditation; it is a long journey and there is no shortcut. Anyone who says there is a shortcut is befooling you. It is a long journey because the change is very deep and is achieved after many lives — many lives of routine habits, thinking, desiring. And the mind structure; that you have to drop through meditation. In fact it is almost impossible — but it happens. A man becoming a meditator is the greatest responsibility in the world. It  is not easy. It cannot be instant. So from the beginning never start expecting too much and then you will never be frustrated. You will always be happy because things will grow very slowly. Meditation is not a seasonal flower which within six weeks is there. It is a very, very big tree. It needs time to spread its roots.” ~ OSHO

Establishing a center is the key to experiencing a sense of your own symmetry. Over the course of your practice, as you begin to master diaphragmatic deep breathing, you will feel your being expand outward from the center point you have established.

2. Block out the 10,000 things
It is very difficult to control the mind directly; almost impossible to tell the mind to just “shut up” or try what Dr. Herbert Benson calls “passive disregarding.” Once again, we need a kind of subterfuge or “handle” to stop the mind from running away. Each teacher has his own approach. I recommend two approaches to managing the 10,000 things. Both are attempts to “sidestep” the mind by giving it something banal to do. The first is counting the breath in a series of four beats: inhale-four, hold-four, exhale-four, hold-four. Start over. Keep counting. It will occupy your mind.

The second approach entails walking, that is, timing the breath cycle over a given number of strides, always breathing through the nose, of course. Inhale-four steps, hold-four steps, exhale-four steps, hold-four steps. Start over. In this case, the activity of walking and counting occupies the mind, especially if you practice in a nature setting, thereby becoming less distracted by the psychic burdens of life and more mindful of nature.

By counting your breath in a regular 4/4 cadence instead of trying to form a Lotus Petal in perfect detail or contemplate Compassion, you trick the mind and shift your focus away from the 10,000 things. Counting occupies the mind just enough to forestall the 10,000 things. At the same time, it doesn’t require you to do something out of reach — like mystical contemplation. As you progress, the counting will fall away of its own accord and your mind will be still.

3. Practice regularly each morning, preferably before eating
As with any endeavor, regularity is the key to success. If you practice every day, you’ll begin to notice the little signals your body sends out. Then, not only will you watch for signals, you’ll find you are able to interpret them.

4. When you detect movement in the lower belly as you breathe (about 100 days in), you are ready to activate the backward-flowing method. What is it that moves? It is more a sensation than a substance that moves in the lower belly, a sensation that may be perceived as breath or energy or breath energy. Whatever its composition, it has the properties of movement and direction. You will perceive it as a sensation, something you can feel, but not actually touch, hear, or see. This sensation may be perceived differently by individual practitioners. That’s the reason it’s difficult to express with everyday language. I perceived it as a current of air in the lower belly, but now I’m convinced after many years of reflection and years of listening to various accounts, that it is not air or breath, but an etherized or distilled form of sexual energy. Where does this energy come from? Is it breath? Is it energy? Is it breath energy? It’s the result of the DDB, the beginning of the sublimation process, the fact that you are starting to harness your energies instead of wasting them.

I like to call it breath energy because it’s the effect that correct breathing practices has on the body’s sexual fluids; correct breathing starts the sublimation process, which is a distillation process. Sexual fluids are transformed into pure pranic energy by diaphragmatic deep breathing practices. In other words, semen or cervical fluids are distilled into pure pranic energy. This movement in the lower belly is a sensation you have probably never felt before. You will either feel it or you won’t. If you don’t, I encourage you to continue practicing until you feel the breath energy circulating. If you do feel it, read on. I will explain how the backward-flowing method works. The purpose of the backward-flowing method is to divert this breath energy (the distilled seminal fluid or, in the case of a woman, the distilled cervical fluid) to the brain. If you thought it had any other purpose, you were mistaken. This is the Secret of Life — plain and simple.

Although the backward-flowing method is the key to making it all work, it’s a big step to consider, because there’s no turning back. Using Golden Flower Kundalini Meditation to activate the Life Force is a restorative process — physically, mentally, spiritually—for me and for the ancients who studied and practiced this method in the past, as well as for modern practitioners. Yet, it is a life-changing step. It will affect your being from body to mind, from eating habits to sexual nature. The pranic breath energy (distilled seminal fluid) will be diverted to the brain and used to create a new being with a rejuvenated body and an aptitude for greater metaphysical exploration and understanding. Once the process is underway — the distilled seminal fluid is diverted to the brain — sexual activity and even procreation have a debilitating effort, at least during the first phase. The brain needs a constant supply of this pranic breath energy, so you must conserve it.

Diaphragmatic deep breathing is the key to stabilizing the heart rate, but the key to causing the energy to flow upward to the brain is the backward-flowing method. It, too, works like pump-priming. Reversing the direction of the breath energy begins the process of drawing distilled seminal fluid up the spinal column.

Some respondents ask me what’s so special about restorative Golden Flower Meditation. They say any number of serious meditation methods include some sort of sublimation process. And they’re right; some do. The difference is that the backward-flowing method works by drawing the distilled seminal fluid (breath-energy )up the spinal column, not by thinking or visualizing it. What do I mean by drawing? I’ve been asked that question many times. This is a very subtle technique whose implementation begins only at the moment when a practitioner perceives that this distilled breath energy has the property of direction. This occurs in the lower belly.

You may remember that in Step 3 I spoke about regularity and receiving signals from the body. Detecting the properties of movement and direction is a perfect example of this type of signal. If you practice regularly, master diaphragmatic deep breathing, learn to slow your breath down until you can’t hear it, you will be able to control your metabolic responses — heart rate, etc. Your being will reach a state of total stillness during meditation, a state of permanent attentiveness, a state of inner visualization, the point where breath takes over being. You will be able to observe sensations inside your body. These phenomena are real occurrences. In The Future of the Body, Murphy points to them as examples of the metanormalities of everyday life.

When you become aware of this activity — that the breath energy in your belly has the properties of movement and direction — it will put you on notice that the time has come to decide whether you want to continue. Should you decide to go forward, all you have to do is command this pranic energy to change directions. It will obey. It will appear to you that you have changed the direction of the flow of air in your breathing. Instead of moving down the back and up the front, you will command it to move down the front and up the back — the backward-flowing method!

How does “commanding the breath to change directions” work? Recently, a young woman started a dialogue about it over the Internet. She came up with the phrase “directed intention.” It’s a phrase I think works well to describe the process.

Many people have asked me when they can expect this sensation/activity to occur. Many ask why it hasn’t already happened for them. They even say they think it might be happening, but they aren’t sure that they are able to recognize it. They ask me to help them.

I tell people that it usually happens about 100 days into the meditation practice, but before it happens, they must master each step, each technique in turn. In other words, there are a certain number of dependencies. How can an individual expect to be able to detect the property of direction in the flow of air in the lower belly if he hasn’t slowed down his breath to the point of absolute stillness? If you do not hear your breath, you become that much more able to “feel” it, to become one with it. Once you become one with it, you can direct it.

But you must master deep breathing completely to the point where inhalation and exhalation become totally still. How long will it take to master deep breathing to the point where you observe the aforementioned “property of movement”? Whether it takes 100 days or 365 days, if you want to succeed, you’ll have to continue until you can breathe without hearing your breath. Silent on inhalation; silent on exhalation.

As for me telling you if the activity has begun or telling you when it might begin, I can’t do that. It’s up to you to learn to communicate with your body. What I can say is that if you progress through the breathing exercises and learn to listen to your breathing cycle, you will eventually detect the property of movement, as if the air in your belly is moving. In fact, you will become aware of the slightest occurrences within your body.

Why is drawing the distilled seminal fluid (sexual energy) up the spinal column superior to thinking or visualizing, or forcing it up the spinal column? Those methods can cause the distilled seminal fluid to go up the wrong channel, a condition that may induce severe pain or cause other problems. In Kundalini: The Evolutionary Energy in Man, Gopi Krishna explores this issue in depth.

The backward-flowing method never lets this happen. Why? Because, once again, it’s like pump-priming. Changing the direction of the breath energy kicks off the sublimation process, opening the reservoir of seminal fluid and sending its distilled essence on its way up the proper channel. It’s a seamless, imperceptible, hand-shaking process — the breath slowly drawing the seminal fluid out of its reservoir, distilling it, and sending it up the spinal column.

The question most people ask after What is the backward-flowing method? is How does it work? The backward-flowing method is a process with a beginning, a middle, and an end. And like any process, it has to proceed step-by-step in proper order, like a scientific experiment. The first step is to reverse the breath. Reversing the breath triggers step two: drawing the distilled seminal fluid up the correct channel in the spine. It ensures that the process will unfold correctly, without harming or frightening the practitioner.

The whole process is a series of dependencies. Step one “allows” the next step to proceed without adversely affecting the process or the results, which are 1) Kundalini activation; and 2) Life Force arousal. However, one cannot reverse the breath energy without first detecting the property of movement in the flow of air in the lower belly (another dependency).

5. In a few days, you’ll be on autopilot. That is, you won’t be able to change the direction of your breath back again. The Kundalini process will continue until the breath energy reaches the brain — the third eye, in fact. You will be able to observe this activity. This is the moment. You have entered the It does you! phase.The natural Life Force (the Primal Spirit) has reassumed control. I can’t tell you exactly what will happen; every case is different, but I can predict that you will begin to observe preliminary effects, such as the magic elixir, the healing breath, and involuntary movements. There are others. The Life Force will explore your body, seeking out areas that need attention. Your auto-diagnosis and self-healing has begun.

Remember to hold to a raw foods diet. This is the most frequent source of problems in this stage, so be sure to stay as raw as possible. If not completely raw, try to include a 75% alkaline diet of raw fruits and vegetables in your diet, for they produce the vital, easily digestible energy you need to fuel your activated Life Force. Even small amounts of alkaline raw fruits and vegetables provide a lot of energy, including hormones, oxygen, enzymes, vitamins, and minerals. Cooked food provides only the last two elements. Kundalini cannot flourish in a toxic host, so detoxify!

6. Wait for further orders. The Life Force (Kundalini) has taken over. The conscious mind is no longer in charge. The Life Force created you; it won’t let you get in trouble if you listen to it. Not that the Mind won’t try to “seduce” you into doing things the “old, familiar way.” It will. Just remember who’s in charge, sit back, and wait for further orders. They will come! Not out of “the burning bush,” but from your body. It’s the body you should be listening to. Your consciousness will begin to expand. You will be able to overcome your addictions, and you will make better life decisions.

She Is…

She is oasis.
She is love glowing with the brightest hues.
She is the cistern in which I dip to drink.
She is eternity; she is now.

She is sculpted beauty.
She is fearless, yet soft to touch.
She is mother, lover, and goddess.
She is the keeper of my soul.

She is nourishment for my deepest cravings.
She is my object of worship.
She is the catalyst for birth.
She is the power of delivery.

She is the balance of my existence.
She is the flower I pollenate.
She is the power of love.
She is all of the above….
She is…

Jay Vincent

The Best Orgasm of My Life~Female Masturbation Tips

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Authentic Tantra Workshops & CoachingI continue to be amazed at how this Tantra stuff really works.

Last night I seriously had the best orgasm of my entire life, by myself, all alone, just little ole me, myself, & I.

And the surprising thing is it was just a clitoral orgasm.

I say “just” because as women, we are capable of over 11 different kinds of orgasm, and I myself have experienced all 11 kinds, multiple times in a row.

So needless to say,  I’ve had my share of mind-blowing orgasmic experiences, and have considered most clitoral orgasms as “puny” in comparison to our true orgasmic potential as women.

But last night changed all that. The biggest, baddest, most mind-melting orgasm of my life happened last night, with only clitoral stimulation occurring.

So what happened to make that occur?

Well a few things really- as I said to start, I am amazed at…

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What If We Told Our Little Girls This?

What if we told our little girls this?

It’s ok to touch yourself
If you want to
If it makes you feel good
If you get wet that’s okay
If you don’t that’s okay too
Just wash your hands before
Just like you do before you eat
Treat your body like a temple
Every time you do anything with your body it is sacred
When you are older enjoy your body as much as you can
Feeling good is ok
Share your body whenever you want to
When you don’t feel like sharing, that’s ok too
There will be times when you don’t feel like loving your own body
There will be times when you want to love yourself several times a day
If you share your intimate moments with others they may feel closer to you
Or they may not
Not everyone learns what I am teaching you
But my concern is you
The most important thing is to love yourself
When you love yourself so much you will reach a point
That you don’t need anyone else
You will feel that full and that complete
Then you will overflow
Then you can’t do anything but share your love
It will exude from your very pores
People will tell you they feel something special about your energy
Your ego will like hearing it
But your heart will be so full of love that your ego will shrink
You will begin to see love everywhere
You will begin to see love in all things
So far no one has found a limit on how much love there is
When your physical body is ready to die
Your love lives on
Your special energy to be shared for eternity
So when you touch yourself remember
It’s perfectly ok.

~Shakti Ma

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A Beginner’s Guide to Tantric Sex

Tantric sex attempts to bring two loving partners together in more than just a physical manner. The word Tantra is Sanskrit and is derived from the root word tan meaning “to extend, expand, spread, continue, spin out, weave, to put forth or manifest.” The idea is to extend your mind and encompass your body to achieve the ultimate satisfaction. In the practice of Tantra, there is a sort of “being- consciousness-bliss” which has the power of self-evolution and self-involution (learning and expanding and looking into oneself). Therefore, the evolution of self helps to bring two people closer together.

One essential element of Tantra is taking time to become absorbed in oneself and your partner. The methods learned and used in Tantric sex provide sensations and sexual pleasure far more intense and complex than just a simple orgasm. In Tantric sex, the orgasm is simply a by-product of the connectedness we feel with our partner.

You begin by creating an environment that is free from distractions, an area that is calm, quiet and peaceful. Your sacred space should be clean of clutter, decorated peacefully, warm, and inviting. Since you will be naked, the room should be warm in temperature as well. Nothing disconnects you from your lover like a shivering body. Playing soft music, lighting candles, and being comfortable are all especially important in creating a Tantric environment.

Once you are in your love haven, sit on the bed, face each other, look into each other’s eyes, and simply breathe. You have to get in touch with each other’s rhythm. You breathe in and out purposefully, paying attention to your lover’s rhythm. As you continue to breathe together, you become closer spiritually, more relaxed, and more in tune. The more attuned you are, the more aware and connected.

Tantric sex is not a race to the finish. Tantric sex is slow and purposeful, but fun. While traditional Tantrists will practice the slow lovemaking for hours upon hours, the average person trying to learn Tantra is not going to have the patience or, quite frankly, the willpower to devote such time. The idea is to not rush, to enjoy yourself, and get as highly aroused as you can.

The basic idea here is to caress, stroke, lick, touch, kiss, and otherwise tease and enjoy each other. You can take turns with a slow, seductive massage or simply sit and touch each other slowly. Pay homage to your lover’s body – all of it. That means ears, nose, neck, stomach, thighs, feet, and so on. The goal is to become familiar, relaxed, and aroused by the whole person, not just the penis or the vagina though you may wish to include a Lingam and Yoni massage as part of your lovemaking.

When you begin the actual sexual intercourse stage, it is important to bring yourself to a heightened state of arousal and then let yourself down. This means, while you are making love, when the man feels his orgasm impending, he should stop, breathe, come down a bit, and then continue to pleasure his partner and himself. This not only builds a tremendous level of sexual tension, but it also develops self-control, heightens the emotional connection, and makes the final release ten times more intense.

Eventually, both partners will get to the point when they have to release. Since Tantric sex involves a total connection, as you are preparing to release your sexual tension, make sure to look deeply into your lover’s eyes, feel their breathing, and communicate your feelings. When a couple is connected in this way, the orgasm that comes will be totally engulfing. Orgasm does not mean that journey ends though. Take the time to connect with one another, and your own road to enlightenment will begin.

When personal Tantra instruction is either inconvenient or too expensive, Al Link and Pala Copeland’s Sexual Mastery Course and Kerry and Diane Riley’s Ultimate Home Tantra Course are two excellent self-teaching courses. I highly recommend either of these courses for those who can’t find a local Tantra teacher, attend a Tantra workshop, or just want to explore Tantra in the privacy of their own home.

“My own understanding is that man had his first glimpses of awakening, of meditation, in moments of lovemaking — nowhere else. It was only in moments of lovemaking that human beings realized for the first time that so much bliss is possible” — Osho

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